Here, 5 different types of happy endings — and how to experience each of them more frequently:
1. The Clitoral Orgasm
What it is: If the clitoral orgasm were an ice cream, it’d be vanilla — not because it’s bland, but because it’s the standard. These orgasms result from direct stimulation of the clitoris, and are described as “localized, sharp, bursting, and short-lasting,” according to a study published in the journal NeuroQuantology.
How to get more: Go solo at first, suggests Janet Wolfe, a New York City-based sex therapist. Masturbation allows you to figure out what works best for you, and you’ll know better how to direct your partner, Wolfe says. You’ll also feel more comfortable helping yourself achieve orgasm during sex.
2. The Vaginal Orgasm
What it is: Also known as the controversial “G-spot” orgasm, these don’t happen for all women. According to that same NeuroQuantology study, vaginal orgasms are achieved more through intercourse than clitoral stimulation, and are described as “whole body” and longer-lasting than clitoral orgasms. Women who report having vaginal orgasms may also be more likely to experience multiple orgasms.
How to get more: Just because you’ve never had a vaginal orgasm doesn’t mean you can’t. Researchers say the G-spot may be located on the front wall of the vagina. So the next time you’re getting it on, have your guy target that spot by entering you from behind. But don’t be scared to change things up once you’re in the groove. According to a study from the Journal of Sexual Medicine, the longer sex lasts, the more likely you are to experience the big O. Changing positions can help your partner last longer.
3. The Blended Orgasm
What it is: A blended orgasm happens when both a clitoral and vaginal orgasm occur simultaneously. These twin orgasms have been known to last anywhere from 1 to 15 minutes, ending in a “giant” orgasm (yes, the medical literature actually uses the word “giant,” so you know it’s got to be good). (If menopause has taken the fun out of your sex life, The Natural Menopause Solution can help you get it back.)
How to get more: You need to put in double the effort if you want double the reward. “Some women find that the best position for orgasm is missionary because their clitoris is also being rubbed through penetration,” says Jane Greer, PhD, a New York-based marriage and sex therapist. But woman-on-top can also be beneficial, since it gives you a little more control over which of your spots are receiving the most attention.
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4. The Coregasm
What it is: An orgasm triggered by exercise. (Seriously.) But this isn’t necessarily one of those toe-curling O’s, according to Debby Herbenick, PhD, a sex researcher and author of the new book, The Coregasm Workout. Women who have experienced these orgasms describe them as “less intense,” but still pleasurable. (Hey, if it gets you to the gym more frequently, go for it.)
How to get more: You’re going to need to get your heart rate up for an orgasm described as “exercise-induced.” After you’ve gotten some good cardio in, it’s time to get to work on your core, Herbenick suggests. She says exercises like hanging leg raises are the most beneficial for an exercise O, since they work the lower abs. (Coregasms seem to start in your ab muscles before moving down to your lady parts.) But just one set of crunches isn’t going to cut it; you want to work your muscles to the point of fatigue, and then keep going once you start feeling some excitement, Herbenick says.
5. The Skin Orgasm
What it is: All you need are some tunes. You may have already experienced a skin orgasm while listening to a favorite song or other powerful piece of music. You probably just brushed it off as “chills” or “goose bumps.” The real name for these feelings? “Frissons,” which are “a musically induced effect associated with a pleasant tingling feeling,” according to a study published in the journal Frontiers in Psychology. Researchers believe the sensation is brought about by unexpected changes in the music, like sudden key changes or quick jumps from soft to loud—anything that forces the mind to abruptly switch gears.
How to get more: The only music linked with this phenomenon—at least thus far—is classical, where crescendos and chord changes abound. But the study authors say people are much more likely to have physical reactions to music that’s familiar to them. Our personal pick: Sara Bareilles’s hit “Gravity.” The moment her voice breaks away from the background music around 2:50 is truly skin-tillating.